WHAT KIDS WANTSTHEIR PARENTS TO KNOW

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WHAT KIDS WANTS THEIR PARENTS TO KNOW WHAT KIDS WANTS THEIR PARENTS TO KNOW 1

Encourage me when I do a good job

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Let me teach you some things. Don't always be the teacher

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Don't show too much affection in public

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Let me take some risks; you did when you were young.

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Try not to miss my ball games, school plays or the other activities that are special to me

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Respect my Privacy

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Take me on short errands with you if I want to go

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Getting a pet is a great idea

Say "YES" more often than "NO"

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Set limits on the amount of television I watch

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Help me to develop a skill or talent that will last a liftetime

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Give me reasons for your demands

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Family activities really make me feel close to everyone.

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Take time to explain things to me.

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Don't take it personally when I act weird… sometimes I feel weird.

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Hang out with me sometimes

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Understand that I don't try to make you mad; it just happens. I don't like being on your bad side.

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Please stop showing pictures of me to everyone you meet. This is very embarrassing.

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Tell me what's going on with family problems or any other problems. It hurts me when I know that I'm not being included.

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Board games can be fun to play with the family.

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Keep your word.

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Ask for forgiveness of me sometimes.

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Make sure you listen to my answers when you ask me questions.

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Listening is one of the best ways to show me you love me.

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If I spend a lot of time on the phone with my friends, don't get worked up.

Keep praying for me. It makes me feel secure. Don't always give me what I keep asking you for.

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Stop comparing me to my brothers or sisters or to my classmates. We are all different and want to be treated as individuals.

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If I lose at something, let me have some time to myself. Later you can tell me what I did wrong.. And what I did right.

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Always buy me clothes that are in fashion not something you would wear.

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I enjoy seeing my parents hug.

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Don't make fun of the music. I listen to or the clothes I wear.

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Set high moral standards for me.

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Keep telling me you love me and are proud of me.

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Teach me how to act around elders.

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Never put me down, especially in front of my friends.

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Talk to me about all subjects even sensitive ones. I need information.

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Encourage me to earn my own money.

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Keep pushing me to learn how to express myself in words, both written and spoken. It really does help me to think better.

Wear your seat belt while driving the car. You are important to me.

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Pray with me.

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Get to know my friends. Include them in some of our family plans.

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Discuss movies after we see them. This teaches me to evaluate things.

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Don't tell me my fears are silly.

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Let me express myself through my hair and clothes.

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Even though I complain about Maths lessons, make me stick with them.

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Keep encouraging me to follow my dreams. Mine are different than yours.

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Encourage me to save and not to buy things so quickly.

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Encourage me to be honest.

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Trust me.

Teach me about different religions,cultures and races.

Don't keep changing the rules. Make sure I have a quiet place and a regular time to do homework.

Nagging doesn't work in the long run I can't always get good grades-sometimes I get nervous and make mistakes.

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Don't push me into a specific sport. Introduce me to lots of activities and let me choose what I like.

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Teach me to be kind.

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Arguments are a natural part of being a family.

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Don't begin sentences with "When I was your age… ".

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Let me be independent and learn to govern myself. I'll do the driving; you do the navigating.

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Have atleast one meal as a family each day.

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Ask open - ended questions, it helps me solve my own problems.

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Tell me about our family history - it makes me proud.

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Set clear, consistent boundaries.

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Share the experiences that you had as a kid-even the mistakes and embarrassing times.

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Tell me when you're in a bad mood or are having a bad day. That way I won't be so hurt if you say something dumb.

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I like us to go to the temple together as a family.

Don't correct my mistakes in front of my friends. Save your criticisms until we are alone.

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Set a good example for me when it comes to habits like smoking or dinking.

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Remember I can't read your mind.

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Teach me to keep trying.

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When I am with my friends, don't always try to hang out with us. You and I can spend time together later.

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Let me decide my own bedtime.

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Occasionally I still like to be kissed by both of my parents.

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Cheer for my whole team, not just for me.

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Know what I am watching on T.V. I am really not old enough to see somethings.

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Your praise means more to me than anyone else's.

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Make sure that my friends feel welcome at our house.

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Don't say things you don't mean when you are angry.

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Sometimes discuss problems w ith me when you don't know the solutions.

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Instead of giving orders, Offer choices.

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Never, Never call me by my pet name in

I may need rules, but not too many.

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vki esjs lkeus ,sls Å¡ps vkn’kZ jf[k, fd eSa /kweiz ku ;k ’kjkc ihus tSlh cqjh vknrksa ls cpw¡ A ;g ckr ;kn jf[k, fd eSa vkids eu dks igys ls gh ugha Hkkai ldrk A eq>s fujarj dksf’k’k djrs jguk fl[kkb, A ’kk;n eq>s fu;eksa dh t:jr gks] ysfdu vufxur fu;eksa dh ugha A tc fe=ksa ds lkFk jgw¡ rks esjs vkl&ikl er jfg, A ckn esa Hkh rks ge lkFk le; fcrk ldrs gSa A eq>s [kqn fu.kZ; ysus nhft, fd esjs lksus dk le; D;k gksxk A eSa pkgrk gw¡ fd vki nksuks a vc Hkh] eq>s dHkh&dHkh I;kj&nqykj djsa A flQZ eq>s gh ugha] esjs nksLrksa dks Hkh mRlkfgr dhft, A bl ckr dh tkudkjh jf[k, fd Vh-oh- ij eSa D;k&D;k dk;ZØe ns[krk gw¡ A ’kk;n esjh mez dqN pht+ksa dks ns[kus tSlh ugha gqbZ gS A nwljksa dh vis{kk vkids n~okjk dh xbZ esjh iz’kalk esjs fy, vf/kd ewY;oku gS A esjs nksLrksa dks yxuk pkfg, fd mudk gekjs ?kj esa vPNk vfrfFk lRdkj gksrk gS A xqLls esa vuqfpr vkSj vokaNuh; ’kCnksa dk iz;ksx u dhft, A tc vkidks fdlh leL;k dk gy u fey jgk gks rks dHkh&dHkh eq>ls fopkj foe’kZ dj yhft, A vkns’k nsus ds ctk; eq>s pquus dk ekSdk nhft, A dHkh Hkh lkoZtkfud LFkyksa ij eq>s] esjs ?kjs yw uke ls

bgauhy; bghJtpl';fspy; miHf;f ntz;lhk; ehd; jFjpahdtd; vd;gij ep+gpf;f vdf;F mjpfkhd bghWg;g[fis bfhL';fs; vd; miwia ehnd my';fhpf;f tpL';fs;. mjw;F Let me decorate my own room, but you can give me advice. eP';fs; vdf;F mwpt[iu Twyhk;. Mh;tkpf;f VnjDk; xU bghUis nrfhpf;f Encourage me to start a collection of something interesting. vd;id Cf;fg;gLj;J';fs; ew;gz;g[fis vdf;F nghjpa[]';fs; Teach me good manners. FLk;gj;jpw;F cjt[k; ey;y fUj;Jf;fisj; juf;Toa Rent videos with a message for the family to watch. ey;y tPonahf;fisna thliff;F vL';fs; Be aware of the music I listen to. Take the ehd; tpUk; gpf; nfl;Fk; ,irfis bjhpe;J time to introduce me to other types of bfhs;S';fs;. rkak; fpilf;Fk;bghGJ kw;w music. ,irfisa[k; vdf;F mwpKfg;gLj;J';fs th';Fk; Kd; tpiyia xg;gpl;Lg; ghh;f;f vdf;F Teach me to compare prices before buying. fw;gpa[';fs; bra;jpj;jhis rpy rka';fspy; goj;J vd;d Read the newpaper with me sometimes and discuss what's going on. elf;fpwJ vd;gij vd;Dld; tpthjpa[';fs; vd;id ez;gh;fSld; jpiug;gl';fSf;Fr; bry;y Let me go to the movies with a friend. We will get the tickets and the food and meet tpL';fs public.

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Give me more responsibilites as I prove myself ready.

you later. Always make time for me. We can sit around and talk, read a book, or do something else. The important thing is that you like to spend time with me.

vdf;bfd;W vg;nghJk; neuj;ij xJf;F';fs;. ehk; mkh;e;J ngryhk;/ g[j;jfk; gof;fyhk; my;yJ ntW VjhtJ bra;ayhk;. Kf;fpakhdJ vd;dbtdpy; eP';fs; vd;Dld; neuj;ij brytpLtij tpUk;g[fpwPh;fs; vd;gij ehd; czunt;z;Lk;.

ey;y g[j;jf';fis njh;e;bjLf;f cjt[';fs; Don't make any promises you might not be c';fshy; epiwntw;w Koahj thf;FWjpfis able to keep. bra;ahjPh;fs; eP';fs; ntiy bra;a[k; ,lj;jpw;F vd;id Take me with you to work. It helps me to understand who you are. miHj;Jr; bry;Y';fs;. ,J eP';fs; ahh; vd;gij ehd; mwpe;J bfhss cjt[k; vdf;Fg; gpoj;jkhd bjhiyf;fhl;rp epfH;r;rpfis Occsionally watch my favourite T.V. shows with me. ehd; ghh;f;Fk;nghJ/ v;gbghGjhtJ eP';fSk; nrh;e;J ghU';fs; Help me to pick out good books.

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u cqykb, A eq>s vf/kd ls vf/kd ftEesnkfj;k¡ nhft, rkfd eSa viuh {kerk fln~/k dj ldw¡ A eq>s vius dejs dks vius s lykg Hkh ns ldrs gSa A fdlh Hkh izdkj dh lq:fpiw.kZ oLrq ,¡ laxzg djus ds fy, izksRlkfgr dhft, A eq>s vPNh vknrsa fl[kkb, A ifjokj ds fy, uSfrd ewY;ksa dh f’k{kk nsus okys ohfM;ks e¡xkb, A eq>s dkSu&lk laxhr ilan gS mldh tkudkjh jf[k, A vU; laxhr ls Hkh ifjfpr djkb, A [kjhnkjh djus ls iwoZ ewY;ksa esa rqyuk djus dh ckr fl[kkb, A dHkh&dHkh esjs lkFk v[kckj Hkh if<+, vkSj lkef;d fo"k;ksa ij ppkZ Hkh dhft, A vius nksLrksa ds lkFk fQYe ns[kus ds fy, tkus nhft, A esjs fy, ges’kk le; fudkfy, A ge ,d lkFk cSBdj ckr dj ldrs gSa] fdrkc i<+ ldrs gSa ;k dqN vkSj Hkh dke ij ldrs gSa A esjs fy, ;g ckr egRoiw.kZ gS fd vkidks esjs lkFk le; fcrkuk vPNk yxrk gS A vPNh fdrkcsa [kjhnus esa esjh enn dhft, A ,slk oknk er dhft, ftls vki fuHkk u ldsa A vki tgk¡ dke djrs gSa] dHkh eq>s Hkh ogk¡ ys tkb, A blls vkids ckjs esa tkuus esa eq>s vklkuh gksxh A dHkh&dHkkj esjs lkFk esjk fiz; Vh-oh- dk;ZØe Hkh nsf[k, A

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I like it when you have fun with my friends and me. They usually don't see parents acting so crazy.

99

Don't bottle up your problems. Share them.

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Think of recreational things we can do together.

101

Pets teach responsibility.

102

Whenever possible let us kids resolve our differences by ourselves. We need to learn to work things out for ourselves. We can't always rely on you to be around to solve every problem.

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Compliment my friends

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Don't be sarcastic.

108

Allow me to use some of your valuable possessions like your camera.

109

Help me to learn some world geography. I need to understand other people, other places.

110

Let me see you helping someone in need.

111

Sometimes listen to my friends and me

Tell me about your disapoint ments. Don't spend all your time on the child who's acting up. Acknowledge the good as well as the bad.

Teach me right and wrong.

vd;DlDk; vd; ez; gh;fSlDk; eP';fs; ntof;if bra;tij ehd; tpUk;g[fpnwd;. mth;fs; bgw;nwhh; ,t;tst[ Mh;tKld; ,Ug;gij rhjhuzkhfg; ghh;j;J ,Uf;fkhl;lhh;fs; c';fs; gpur;ridfis \oitf;fhjPh;fs;. mtw;iw gfp;h;eJ bfhs;S';fs ehk; nrh;e;J mDgtpf;Fk; bghGJnghf;F epfH;r;rpfis nahrpj;J ita[';fs; tsh;g;g[g; gpuhzpfs; bghWg; g[zh;it fw;gpf;fpd;wd. FHe;ijfshd eh';fs; v';;fSf;fpilnaahd ntWghLfis eh';;fns jPh;j;Jf; bfhs;s tpL';fs;. eh';fs; v';fSila ntiyia eh';fns fw;Wf; bfhs;s ntz;Lfpnwhk;. v';fs; xt;bthU gpur;ridfis jPh;f;f c';fisna rhh;e;J ,Uf;f KoahJ. vd; ez;gh;fis g[fH;e; J ngR';fs; c';fs; Vkhw;w';fis vd;dplk; brhy;Y';fs;. c';fs; neuj;ij KGtJk; FHe;ijapd; eltof;ifia nkw;ghh;itapLtjpy; brytplhjPh;fs;. ed;ik/ jPikfis Vw;Wf; bfhs;S';fs; nfyp ngrhjPh;fs; rhpahditfisa[k; jtWfisa[k; vdf;Fr; brhy;yp bfhL';fs;. c';fsplk; cs;s tpiy kjpg;g[ tha;e;j fhkpuh nghd;w rhjd';fis ifahstpL';fs;

eq>s vPNk yxsxk vxj vki esjs vkSj esjs nksLrksa ds lkFk vkuaniwoZd le; fcrk,¡ A ’kk;n esjs nksLrksa us vius ekrk&firk dks bruk gf"kZr ugha ns[kk gksxk A viuh ijs’kkfu;ksa dks fNikus ds ctk; eq>s Hkh crkb, A ,sls voljksa ds ckjs esa lksfp, fd ge lkFk&lkFk euksjatu dj ldsa A ikyrw tkuoj j[kus ls ge ftEesnkjh fuHkkuk lh[krs gSa A cPpksa dks vkilh erHksn [kqn gh lqy>kus nhft, A gesa pkfg, fd ge leL;k dk gy [kqn gh djuk lh[ksa A ge ges’kk ;g mEehn ugha dj ldrs fd gj eqf’dy dh ?kM+h esa vki gekjs ikl gh gksx a sA esjs fe=ksa dh iz’kalk dhft, A viuh fujk’kkvksa ds ckjs esa eq>s crkb, A cPpksa dh fuxjkuh djus esa gh iwjk le; er fcrkb, A gekjh vPNkbZ vkSj cqjkbZ nksuksa dks Lohdkj dhft, A ges’kk rkus er nhft, A eq>s vPNs vkSj cqjs dh igpku djuk fl[kkb, A

eq>s vkids •îú´Ö¸êü vU; dherh pht+ksa dk mi;ksx djus nhft, A ehd; cyfg; g[tpapay; fw;Wf;f bfhs;s cjt[';fs;. fo’o Hkwxksy dks tkuus esa esjh enn dhft, A vU; ehd; gpw gFjpfisa[k;./ gpw kf;fisa[k; mwpa yksxksa o txgksa dh tkudkjh j[kuk esjs fy, t:jh tpUk;g[fpnwd;. gS A cjtp njitg;gLgth;fSf;F eP';fs; cjt[tijna esjs le{k t:jreanksa dh lgk;rk dj viuk mnkgj.k ehd; tpUk; g[fpnwd jf[k, A c';fSila fUj;Jf;fisj; jpzpf;fhky; ehDk; viuh [kqn dh jk; crk, fcuk dHkh&dHkh esjh vkSj esjs 9

talking w ithout adding your own opinion.

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Show me how to compete.

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Teach me how to cook.

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Try not to embarrass me by the way you dress.

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Let me choose my own friends.

119

Teach me to be a good winner and a good loser.

120

Please don't yell at me when there's a problem. The less anger the easier it is to understand one another.

121

The next time I have a day off from school, take a day off from work and spend the time with me. You can get to know me better.

122

When telling me about your rules, make sure I understand the consequences.

123

Even smart kids may made mistakes. I am smart, not perfect.

124

Don't keep adding on punishments. Don't ground me and then decide that I also can't use the phone, and then that I also can't watch T.V.

Let's once in a while take turns reading out loud. Keep chart of my accomplishments and achievements.

Answer my questions, even if the answer is embarrassing.

vd; ez;gh;fSk; ngrpf; bfhs;tij ftdkhff; nfS';fs; nghl;oapLtJ vg; go vd;W fw;Wf; bfhL';fs vg;bghGnjDk; cuf;fg;gof;f v';fspy; Kiw Vw;gLj;J';fs rikf;f fw;Wf; bfhL';fs; vdf;F fpilj;j ghpRg; bghUl;fs;/ vd; rhjd';fs; gw;wpa gl;oay; itj;jpU';fs; eP';fs; mzpe;J bfhs;Sk; cilahy; vdf;F jh;k r';flj;ij Vw;gLj;jhjPh;fs vd; ez;gh;fis ehnd njh;e;bjLf;f mDkjpa[';fs jh;k r';flkhd gjpy;fshf ,Ug;gpDk; vd; nfs;tpfSf;Fg; gjpy; msp]a[';fs btw;wp njhy;tpfis rkkhf ghtpf;f fw;Wf; bfhL';fs;. btw;wpaila[k;nghJ kkij milahkYk;/ njhy;tpahy; Jtz;L nghfhkYk; ,Uf;f fw;W;fbfhL';fs; gpur;rid ,Ug;gpd; vd; kPJ nfhgg; glhjPh;fs;. vt;tst[ Fiwthf nfhgg;gLfpwPh;fnsh me;j mstpw;F xUtiubahUth; mwpa vspjhf ,Uf;Fk mLj;jKiw vdf;F gs;sp tpLKiw rkak;/ eP';fSk; tpLg;g[ vLj;J/ ,UtUk; fye;Jiuahlyhk;. ,jdhy; vd;id eP';fs; nkYk; ed;whf mwpe;J bfhs;syhk; c';fs; tpjpKiwfisr; brhy;Yk;bghGJ mjd; tpist[fisa[k; ehd; ed;F mwpe;Js;nsdh vd;gijj; bjhpe;J bfhs;S';fs; g[j;jprhypj;jdkhf bray;gLk; FHe;ijfSk; jtwpiHf;fyhk;. ehd; Th;ikahd mwpt[ bfhz;ltdhapDk; Fiwghlw;wtdy;y nkYk; nkYk; jz;lidfisf; Tl;of; bfhz;nl brd;W vd;idg; gadw;wtdhf Mf;fhjPh;fs;.

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fe=ksa dh ckrphr lqfu, A eq>s izfr;ksfxrk esa thrus ds lw= fl[kkb, A dHkh&dHkh eSa vkSj vki ckjh&ckjh ls t+ksj ls dqN i<+as A eq>s [kkuk cukuk fl[kkb, A esjh miyfC/k;ks]a iqjLdkjksa vkSj bukeksa dk pkVZ cukdj jf[k, A bl rjg dh iks’kkd u igfu, ftlls eq>s ladksp dk vuqHko gks A eq>s vius fe=ksa dks [kqn pquus nhft, A esjs ladksp esa Mkyus okys iz’u iwNus ij Hkh mudk tokc nhft, A gkj vkSj thr dks ,d leku ys us dh lh[k nhft, A gkj dks dHkh Hkh eq>ij gkoh er gksus nhft, A vxj vkidks dksbZ leL;k gks rks eq>ij xqLlk er dhft, A vkids de Øksf/kr gksus ls gh ge] ,d nwljs dks csgrj le> ik,¡xs A vxyh ckj tc esjs Ldwy esa NqV~Vh gks rks vki Hkh NqV~Vh ysdj esjs lkFk le; fcrkb, A blls vki] esjs ckjs esa vkSj T;knk tku ik,¡xs A vki dk;ns&dkuwu crkrs le; eq>s muds ifj.kke ls Hkh vo’; voxr djk nsa A dHkh&dHkh gksf’k;kj cPpksa ls Hkh xyrh gks tkrh gS A eSa gksf’k;kj gks ldrk gw¡ ysfdu iw.kZ ugha A esjh xyrh ds fy, naM ij naM nsdj eq>s vkSj ¤ãü•Öß er dhft, vkSj bl dkj.k Qksu djus vkSj Vh-oh- ns[kus ls eq>s oafpr er dhft, A

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Keep encouraging me to read

127

Make up a list of my chores. That way I know exactly what I need to do and you won't have to keep reminding me.

128 129

Teach me about love and affection.

130

Introduce me to lots of defferent things. Even if I never want to do something again, you have given me the experience.

131

Try to remember what it was like being my age.

132

Teach me how to relax.

133

Teach me to pray about my problems.

134

Give me enough pocket money so that I can learn how to spend wisely and how to save.

135

If you must fight, remember that I am close enough to hear you.

Remember that my room is the only Private place that I can call my own. If I don't want to keep it perfectly neat, let me.

Help me plan ahead. High School will be scary enough even with a plan.

gof;fr; brhy;yp vd;id Cf;fg;gLj;J';fs vdf;Fr; brhe;jkhdJ vd;W brhy;yf;Toa jdpg;gl;l ,lk; vd;Dila miwjhd; vd;gij epidt[ bfhs;S';fs;. mij ehd; Rj;jkhf itj;J;f bfhs;stpy;iyahdhYk; mij bghUl;gLj;jhjPh;fs; ehd; bra;ant;zoa tPl;L ntiyfisg; gw;wp gl;oay; ,L';fs;. mjd;go epr;rakhf ehd; vd;d bra;a ntz;Lk; vd;gijj; bjhpe;J bfhs;ntd;. eP';fs; mof;fo mij epidt{l;l ntz;oapuhJ md;g[/ ghrk; gw;wp vdf;F fw;gpa[';fs; jpl;lkpl;L bra;jhYk; cah; gs;spf; Tlk; / fy;Yhhp vd;id fpyp milar; bra;a[k;. vdnt Kd;djhfnt jpl;lkpl cjt[';fs gy;ntW tp#a';fis ehd; mwpar; bra;a[';fs;. ehd; rpytw;iw vg;bghGJk; kPz;L k; bra;a ntz;o ,Uf;fhtpl;lhYk;/ eP';;fs; vdf;F mDgtk; bfhLj;jjhf ,Uf;Fk;. vd;Dila ,e;j tajpy; vd; kdepiy/ vjph;ghh; g;g[ vg;g o ,Uf;Fk; vd;gij nahrpj;Jg; ghU';fs; kdkfpH;t[ld; Xa;thf ,Ug;gJ vg; go vd;gij fw;W;f bfhL';fs vd;Dila gpur;ridfSf;fhfg; gpuhh;j;jid bra;a fw;W;f bfhL';fs; vdf;F ntz;oa mst[ ifr;bryt[ gzk; bfhL';fs;. mjdhy; gzj;ij vg;go brytpLtJ vd;Wk; vg;go nrkpg;gJ vd;Wk; ehd; bjhpe;J bfhs;ntd; bgw;nwhh;fs; eP';fs; ,UtUk; rz;il rr;rut[fspy;
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eq>s lnk i<+rs jgus dh izsj.kk nhft, A esjk dejk gh ,dek= ,slk futh LFkku gS ftls eSa ^viuk* dg ldrk gw¡ A vxj eSa dejk Bhd ls u j[k ik;k rks ukjkt+ er gksb, A tks&tks ?kj ds dke eq>s djus gks]a mudh lwph cuk nhft, rkfd eq>s irk py tk, fd dkSu&dkSu lk dke eq>s djuk gS A vkidks ckj&ckj ;kn fnykus dh vko’;drk Hkh ugha iM+sxh A I;kj vkSj Lusg ds ckjs esa eq>s crkb, A vxj eSa gkbZ Ldwy ;k dkyst ds fy, igys ls gh dksbZ ;kstuk cukdj j[k Hkh yw¡ rc Hkh eu esa dgha u dgha Mj jgrk gh gS A vki eq>s Hkfo"; ds fy, Iyku djus dh izsj.kk nsrs jfg, A eq>s cgqr&lh O;kogkfjd ckrksa dk –ÖÖ-Ö nhft, A vkids fn, vuqHko] ckn esa eq>s gkykr dk lkeuk djus es]a vo’; dke vk,¡xs A t+jk lkspdj nsf[k, fd esjh mez esa vkidh eu%fLFkfr vkSj vis{kk,¡ dSlh Fkha A [kq’kh vkSj pSu dh ftanxh thus dh dyk ls voxr djkb, A viuh ijs’kkfu;ksa ls Åij mBus ds fy, bZ’oj dh izkFkZuk djus dh lh[k nhft, A eq>s i;kZIr tsc [kpZ nhft, rkfd eSa lgh xM+rs gSa rks mldk cqjk vlj cPpksa ij iM+rk gS A

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Don't be so overprotective. If I am not allowed to make mistakes, I can't learn from my mistakes.

137

Don't judge my friends by their clothes or hair. After all, I saw something in them that made me want their friendship.

138

I like the little private notes you sometimes leave me.

139

Help me with my homework when I need you to.

140

If I come home late, I might have a good reason. Ask for it before you get upset.

141 142

Teach me to be kind.

143

I am no longer the little child you think of me as, but I am also not as grown-up as I like to pretend.

144 145

Talk to me about god.

146

When I ask a question, make sure I understand your answer.

147

Hire someone to do your taxes. Every year the whole family gets upset because you are so worried until they are done.

Don't punish me if I don't do well in school. Instead, work w ith me to improve.

Encourage me to use a computer. I'll be glad later.

vd;id mjpf mst[ ghJfhf;f ntz;lhk;. ehd; jtWfisr; bra;a mDkjpf;fg;glhtpl; lhy; vd; jtWfspypUe;J ehd; ghlk; fw;Wf; bfhs;s KoahJ btspj;njhw;wj;ij kl;Lnk ghh;j;J vdJ ez;gh;fis myl;rpag;gLj;jhjPh;fs; rpy rka';fspy; vdf;fhf eP';fs; tpl;Lr; bry;Yk; rpwpa jdpg;gl;l Fwpg;g[fis ehd; tpUk;g[fpnwd ehd; nfl;Fk;bghGJ vd; ;tPl;Lg; ghl';fisr; bra;a cjt[';fs; ehd; tPl;Lf;F tu jhkjkhdhy; mjw;F fhuzk; ,Uf;Fk;. eP';;fs; nfhgg;gLtjw;F Kd; ;vd;dplk; mijg; gw;wp nfS';fs; md;ghf ehd; ele;J bfhs;s fw;Wf; bfhL';fs; ehd; gs;spapy; rpwf;ftpy;iy vd;gjw;fhf vd;idj; jz;of;fhjPh;fs;. gjpyhf vd;Dld; nrh;e; J ehd; Kd;ndw;wkila cjtp bra;a[';fs; eP';fs; epidg;gijg; nghy; ,d;Dk; ehd; mt;tst[ rpwpa FHe;ij my;y. Mdhy; ehd; ghtid bra;tijg;nghy; mt;tst[ Kjph;r;rpahdtd; my;;y flt[isg; gw;wp vd;Dld; fye;J tpthjpa[';fs; ehd; xU fk;g;a{l;liu gad;gLj;j Cf;fg;gLj;J';fs;. gpw;fhyj;jpy; mJ vdf;F gaDs;sjhf ,Uf;Fk;. ehd; xU nfs;tpiaf; nfl;lhy;/ c';fspd; gjpiy KGikahf ehd; g[hpe; J bfhz;nld; vd;gij cWjpg; gLj;jpf; bfhs;S';fs;. c';fs; thpfis fzf;fpl ntiyahis mkh;j;jpf; bfhs;S';fs;. Vbddpy; mit Koa[k;tiu eP';fs; kpf;f ftiya[ld; ,Ug;gJ FLk;gk; KGtija[k; ghjpf;fpwJ. 12

esjh cgqr T;knk ijokg u djsa A vxj eq>s dHkh xyrh djus dk ekSdk gh ugha feysxk rks eSa lh[kwx a k dSls \ esjs nksLrksa ds diM+s ;k cky ns[kdj mudh vogsyuk er dhft, A muesa dqN [kkl ckr ns[kdj gh eSaus muls nksLrh dh gS A eq>s vPNk yxsxk vxj vki dgha ckgj tkrs le; esjs fy, fyf[kr fooj.k NksM+ nsa A tc eSa x`g dk;Z djus esa vkidh enn pkgw¡ rks enn dhft, A ?kj nsj ls vkus ds ihNs t:j dksbZ dkj.k gksxk A ukjkt+ gksus ls igys gels mldk dkj.k tku yhft, A eq>s n;kyq cuus dh lh[k nhft, A vxj esjh i<+kbZ Bhd ls ugha gks ik jgh gS rks nafMr djus ds ctk; esjh deh nwj djus esa vki enn dhft, A eSa vc mruk NksVk cPpk ugha gw¡ ftruk vki le>rs gSa] ij mruk cM+k Hkh ugha gqvk gw¡ ftruk fn[kus dh dksf’k’k djrk gw¡ A Hkxoku ds ckjs esa eq>ls ppkZ dhft, A daI;wVj dk iz;ksx djus ds fy, eq>s izksRlkfgr dhft, tks fd vkxs esjs fy, mi;ksxh gksxk A eSa vkils tc dksbZ iz’u d:¡ rks ;g ckr /;ku esa jf[k, fd vkidk tokc esjh le> esa iwjh rjg vk tk, A vius VSDl&fuiVku ds dke ds fy, fdlh dks dke ij jf[k, A blls gj lky dj fuiVku dk dke iwjk gksus rd vkids lkFk&lkFk gesa Hkh ijs’kkuh ugha gksxh A

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Don't bring up past mistakes. Forgive and forget.

149

Don't automatically blame until you know the facts.

150

Take me to the hospital sometimes when you visit friends who are ill. It makes me appreciative of good health.

151 152

Believe in me.

153

Help me to get organised.

154

Listed to my music with me occasionally.

155 156

Teach me to respect elders.

157

When I have a bad attitude or do something mean, tell me.

158 159

Never let me smoke.

160

Listen to my jokes and experiences in classroom.

161

Don't assume my teen years will be a hassle. You might actually enjoy me as a teenager.

162

Have a set time for us to do family chores.

Assist with my chores when I ask for help.

A clothes allowance teaches me to make good choices and saves us all hassles.

Pay my allowance on a regular basis. Don't make me have to ask for it.

Kd;dhy; ehd; bra;j jtWfis epidt{l;lhjPh;fs;. kd;dpj;J kwe;J tpL';fs; cz;ikfis eP';fs; ed;F Kw;Wk; czuhky; Fw;w';fis Rkj;jhjPh;fs

eq>s ckj&ckj esjh xyfr;ksa dks ;kn er fnykrs jfg, A eq>s ekQ dj ml xyfr dks Hkwy tkb, A lPpkbZ tkuus ls igys eq> ij vkjksi er yxkb, A

c';fs; ez;gh;fs; neha[w;wpUf;Fk; rka';fspy; kUj;Jtkidf;Fr; bry;Yk;bghGJ vd;ida[k; miHj;Jr; bry;Y';fs;. ,jdhy;; ey;y Mnuhf;fpaj;ij rhpahf mwpe;J bfhs;sf;Toa jd;ik Vw;gLfpwJ vd;dplj;jpy; ek;gpf;if ita[';fs; vdJ tPl;L ntiyfspy; c';fsplk; cjtp nfl;Fk;bghGJ vdf;F cjt[';fs; ehd; vija[k; xG';fhfr; bra;a cjt[';fs; vg;bghGjhtJ vd; ,iria vd;Dld; nrh;e;J nfS';fs; bghpnahh;fis kjpf;ff; fw;Wf; bfhL';fs; cilfSf;fhf eP';fs; bfhLf;Fk; gzk; tpUg;g khdtw;iw njh;e;bjLf;f cjt[fpwJ. ek; ntz;lhj tpthj';fisa[k; jLf;fpwJ jtwhd bra;iffisr; bra;jhnyh my;yJ c';fSf;F mt;thW njhd;wpdhnyh vd;dplk; brhy;Y';fs; ehd; g[ifgpof;f mDkjpf;fhjPh;fs; vd; cjtpj; bjhiffis chpa fhy';fspy; mspa[';fs;. mij ehd; nfl;Fk;goahf itj;Jf; bfhs;s ntz;lhk;. ehd; brhy;Yk; jkh#;;fisa[k; vd; gs;spf;T l mDgt';fisa[k; nfS';f s vd;Dila ,sikg; gUtk; gpur;ridahdjhf epidj;Jf; bfhs;shjPh;fs;. me;jg; gUtj;jpy; eP';fs; cz;ikapy; vd;id urpf;fyhk;. tPl;L ntiyfisr; bra;a Fwpg;gpl;l neuj;ij ekf;F xJf;F';fs;

vius chekj nksLr dks ns[kus ds fy, vLirky tkrs le; eq>s Hkh lkFk ys tkb, A blls LoLFk jgus dh lh[k feyrh gS A

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eq>ij Hkjkslk dhft, A tc eSa ?kj ds dke esa enn pkgw¡ rks esjh enn dhft, A Æü¸ü dke dks s viuh ilan ds diM+s [kjhnus ds fy, iSls nhft, A fQj esjh ilan ukilan dh ckr gh ugha mBsxh A vxj esjk O;ogkj cqjk gks ;k eSa LokFkhZ cu tkÅ¡ rks eq>s crkb, A eq>s dHkh Hkh /kweiz ku er djus nhft, A eq>s le; ij [kpZ ds fy, #i;s ns nhft, rkfd eq>s ek¡xus dh vko’;drk u iM+s A esjs Ldwy ds vuqHko vkSj et+ns kj fdLls eq>ls lqfu, A ,slk ekudj er pfy, fd esjh fd’kksjkoLFkk esa leL;k,¡ gh gksx a h A esjh fd’kksjkoLFkk esa Hkh vki esjs lkFk [kq’k jg ldrs gSa A ?kj dk dke feydj djus ds fy, le; fu/kkZj.k dhft, A

163

I like it when you play practical jokes on us.

164

Look at family photo albums with me and tell me about the relatives.

165

Don't always let me win when we play games or sports.

166 167

Don't shout to make a point.

168

Encourage me to exercise regularly.

169

Even when I do something w rong, let me know you love me.

170 171

Don't set unrealistic goals.

172

Control the amount of time I play video games.

173 174

I like it when you have fun with me.

175

Allow me to keep some of my money in a safe, secret place.

176

Make sure that I understand the meaning behind the words on my posters and T shirts

177

Ask my opinion sometimes.

178

Let yourself be a parent, not a policeman.

Never call me stupid or dumb.

Sometimes I just want to be left alone.

Thank me and point it out when I am polite.

v';fis nfyp bra;J eP';fs; tpisahLtij ehd; tpUk;g[fpnwd FLk;g g[ifg;g lj; bjhFg;ig fhz;gpj;J vdf;F ek;Kila cwtpdh;fisg; gw;wpf; TW';fs; ehk; rhjhuz Kiwapy; tpisahLk;nghJk; nghl;o itj;J tpisahLk; nghJk; vd;idna btw;wp bgw itf;fhjPh;fs;. xd;iw tpsf;fr; bra;tjw;fhf fj;jhjPh;fs; vd;id Kl;l hs; vd;nwh Cik vd;nwh miHf;fhjPh;fs; njfg; gapw;rp xG';fhfr; bra;Jtu Cf;fg;gLj;J';fs; ehd; VjhtJ jtW bra;jhYk; eP';fs; vd;kPJ md;ghf ,Ug;gij mwpar; bra;a[';fs; ajhh;j;jkpy;yhj ,yf;Ffis itf;fhjPh;fs; rpy rka';fspy; ehd; jdpikahf ,Uf;f tpUk;g[fpd;nwd; vd;Dila tPonah tpisahl;ow;fhd neuj;ij fl;Lg;gLj;J';fs eP';fs; vd;Dld; rphpj;J kfpH;tij tpUk; g[fpnwd; kw;wth;fsplk; khpahija[ld; ele;Jbfhs; Sk; nghJ mij Fwpg;gpLtJlDk; ed;wpa[k; bjhptpa[';fs; vd;Dila gzj;jpy; xU gFjpia gj;jpukhf ufrpakhd ,lj;jpy; nrkpj;J itf;f mDkjpa[';fs; ehd; itj;jpUf;Fk; ngh!;lh;/ 'T' rl;ilfs; Mfpatw;wpy; cs;s thh;j;ijfsd; bghUis ehd; mwpe;Js;nsdh vd;W cWjpg; gLj;jpf; bfhs;S';fs; vd;Dila fUj;Jf;fis rpy neu';fspy; nfl;L mwp[a[';fs; eP';fs; bgw;nwhiug;nghy; ele;J bfhs;S';fs;. fhty;fhuidg; nghy elf;fhjPh;fs; 14

eq>s NsM+rs gq, vkidk [ksyuk eq>s vPNk yxrk gS A gekjs ifjokj dk ,yce fn[kkdj eq>s vius fj’rsnkjksa ds ckjs esa crkb, A esjs lkFk [ksyrs le; ges’kk tkucw>dj eq>s thrus er nhft, A dHkh Hkh fpYykdj viuh ckr er le>kb, A eq>s dHkh Hkh ^csodwQ* ;k ew[kZ dgdj er cqykb, A fu;fer :i ls O;k;ke djus ds fy, eq>s izk sRlkfgr dhft, A vxj eq>ls xyrh Hkh gks tk, rks eq>s viusiu vkSj I;kj dk vglkl fnykb, A esjs fy, vokLrfod y{; fu/kkZfjr er dhft, A dHkh&dHkh esjh bPNk gksrh gS fd eSa dqN le; vdsys esa fcrkÅ¡ A esjs ohfM;ks xse ;k vU; [ksy dh le; lhek r; dj nhft, A eSa pkgrk gw¡ fd vki esjs lkFk g¡l&cksydj [kq’k jgsa A vxj eSa nwljksa ds lkFk fouezrk ls is’k vkÅ¡ rks mldk ftØ dj ’kqfØ;k dfg, A eq>s vuqefr nhft, fd eSa vius iSls fdlh lqjf{kr xqIr txg ij j[kw¡ A ;g lqfuf’pr dhft, fd eSa viuh Vh ’kVZ vkSj iksLVj ij Nis ’kCnksa ds vFkZ tkurk gw¡ A dHkh&dHkh esjh Hkh jk; tku yhft, A eSa pkgrk gw¡ fd vki iqf yl dh rjg ugha ekrk&firk dh rjg jgsa A

179

Spread your love around. Give equal attention to each child in the family.

180

Remember that even though I don't always say it, I appreciate all you do for me.

181

Don't visit my school too oftern. It is embarrassing to me.

182

Please do not smoke or drink. I want you to be with us for more years.

183 184 185 186

Introduce your friends to me.

187

When I am ill, I want you to take c are of me personally.

188

Be punctual before asking me to be punctual.

Let me know about or relatives. Teach me about hospitality. When we go on tour, let me do the cash transaction. I will give account later.

c';fs; md;ig vy;nyhUf;Fk; mspa[';fs;. FLk;gj;jpd; xt;bthU FHe;ij kPJk; rk mst[ mf;fiw bfhL';fs ehd; brhy;yhtpl;lhYk; eP';fs; vdf;fhf bra;a[k; midj;ija[k; kjpj;J ghuhl;Lfpnwd; vd;gij epidt[ bfhs;S';fs;. vd;Dila gs;spf;Tlj;jpw;F mof;fo tuhjPh;fs;. mJ vdf;F FHg;g \l;LfpwJ jat[ bra;J g[ifg;gpof;fnth/ kJ mUe;jnth bra;ahjPh;fs;. v';fSld; mnef Mz;Lfs; eP';fs; ,Uf;f ntz;Lbkd;W ehd; tpUk; g[fpnwd; c';fs; ez;gh;fis vdf;F mwpKfg;gLj;J';fs; ek; cwtpdh;fisg;gw;wp ehd; mwpar; bra;a[';fs; tpUe;njhk;giy vdf;F fw;Wf; bfhL';fs; ehk; cy;yhrg; gazk; bra;a[k;bghGJ gztut[ brytpd';fis bra;a mDkjpa[';fs;. ehd; gpd;dh; mjw;fhd fzf;if bfhLj;J tpLntd;. ehd; RftPdKw;wpUf;Fk;nghJ vd;kPJ jdpf;ftdk; brYj;J';fs; eP';fs; fhyk; jtwhikia filgpoj;j gpd;dh; vd;dplk; fhye;jtwhky; ,Uf;fr; brhy;Y';fs

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